“What does she even do?” “I don’t know. She has a mommy blog?” I’ll be honest: I don’t remember which half of that dialogue is me, but I remember the conversation. The conversations, really, because there was a time when mommy blogs were a thing I made fun of. A lot. Because I was a … Continue reading I Was Late to the Glennon Doyle Party
“I, too, am ever baffled and enraged by the culture that consistently and completely silences my identity as an ambitious, accomplished woman once I assumed the title “Mrs.” What’s truly astonishing is that this kind of violence is more often than not perpetuated by women themselves.” -Hyejin Lee, ArtStoryLab That comment was posted months ago, … Continue reading These Acts of Violence
Guys.* I was on a podcast. It's called Best Book Ever, and it's the best podcast ever. Okay, I can't prove that, but it is a great one, and I honestly do listen every single week. I can't stop, won't stop listening to BBE, and I'm thrilled to have gone on the best podcast ever … Continue reading Talking Pride & Prejudice with the Best Book Ever podcast
Gloria Steinem. August 27, 1970. (Photo by Jerry Engel/New York Post Archives /(c) NYP Holdings, Inc. via Getty Images) This week, I don’t know what to say. The world is big, and likely to change dramatically in the coming days— for better or for worse, we don’t yet know. I don’t have it in me … Continue reading When You Don’t Know What to Say or Think, Turn to People Smarter than You and Read
The pandemic is still happening. One charge against Derek Chauvin has been dropped. The presidential election is 9 days away. The Senate will vote to confirm Amy Coney Barrett to the Supreme Court tomorrow, and unless something truly unexpected happens, she will be confirmed. Also, on October 20th, the Twin Cities had its first blizzard … Continue reading This week’s a little serious, but not without a hope. And scented candles.
Things I love that get made fun of on the Internet (and sometimes in person): Hallmark movies, scented candles that smell like leaves or flannel or fall, Taylor Swift even before Folklore, romantic comedies. Not pumpkin spice lattes, because honestly, I’m not a pumpkin spice anything kind of chick, but I like a good peppermint … Continue reading Speaking of Romance…
I went up north this weekend. This isn’t something I’ve done since the pandemic hit, but Tony was going up for the evening to take a client to dinner. The client is married, and I’d met the wife before. (The wife. This is my unedited thinking: not his wife, the wife. Jeez.) I liked her. … Continue reading Being Polite
It’s 2020, so lately my self-care has relied heavily on escapism. I read novels, listen to audiobooks, leave familiar episodes of Gilmore Girls running in the background as I Marie Kondo my downstairs closet. (She’d disapprove, I know. She says it’s important to have quiet while sorting your belongings, in order to really feel any … Continue reading Hallmark Movies, or, Retreating into Problematic Narratives for Comfort and Trying Not to Ask Why
RBG passed. That I begin by calling her, simply, RBG and assume that you know who I mean, is a testament to her notoriety. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg. Notorious RBG. An icon, a role model, and someone most women I know, were counting on to keep our rights protected. It’s because of her, … Continue reading RBG, AOC, and ME
Every week, I write an essay. Every week, I tell myself (and you) that this essay is about how the patriarchy impacts my life. The more essays I write, the more I question this assertion. Is Suddenly Suburban really about the patriarchy? Always? The dinner parties? The sad hydrangeas? The self care and beauty standards … Continue reading What am I even talking about? I mean, really.